Relationships

Relationships!!Often most discussed and most stressful part of a human life.Almost all the time wen we are at a cafe or club we see women and Men discuss relationships.Why is it that after many century's there is still no good answer for a good relationship?And how does love play a part in this confusing situations?So I did google on topic on love and relationship and space.After going thro a lot of articles on the net, I realized that those articles were from people around the world.I felt kinda relieved to be honest, to know that what I was going thro was normal and to know women and men around the world are pretty much the same.Then why is it so hard to solve this.Why do women have sick feeling in their stomach and loose their confidence when men take their space.Topics on men what draw them away from commitment was so similar to men who live in my country.It was almost like universe was talking to me as I was reading these articles.why do people around the world, men and women have similar insecurities and fear?

With all these articles out there and help offered I began to wonder why isnt a standard book about women and men.This way, as we are growing up and instead of reading fairytales and watching romantic movies we are educated about this human behaviour.May be understanding the basic character sketch of a man and women from the very beginning can help us to be prepared on what not to expect from something that isnt a part of them.  

Then I began to look for reasons beyond logic.There are billions of people in the world and yet we connect only to few.We all are energies and vibrating at different frequencies.Most of the time we are attracted to a person in the beginning because of the vibration level they are at.And once they get to know each other and start liking each other,the insecurities and fear from our childhood or experiences surface back and couples begin to fight.we start vibrating at different frequencies and temporarily  we connect when we patch up but it surfaces back again at different situation.

All these information made me realize that only when we are aware of our thoughts and can control our fear and insecurities, is when any relationship can work.

Over this phase is where love comes to play and truly tested.Only with love and care in your heart, one can understand the different phases, your partner is going thro.

Only if one can operate with love in their hearts, can any relationship work.This feeling of love is to be created by being aware of our mind that can manipulate any situation.The situation can be similar to those billion people who are going thro but how you fight your own fears and how much you can forgive and understand is where the peace in a relationship survives.

Ultimately Love is what all these billions of people around the world are trying to acquire by wanting to maintain a relationship.And like buddha preaches we all are being of love and its our natural form.

By Abhijatha Umesh

being aware

Sorry deleted the previous post since i didnt want controversy..

Faith

Having faith is important...not for things to happen your way but trusting the process of life to unfold new paths to a better future...life has its own reason for the turning of events.

our life

we cannot perceive a larger picture of our lives with our minds clouded with thoughts.we are just a fraction of the event that shapes ones future.Having faith will lead you to a life much better than imagined..with less to do and enjoy the ride and be a part of the drama that unfolds our true character..Such is life.

A different World

Few days ago I was living in an orphanage...

Before I planned my trip to the orphanage, I had no idea what was it going to be like living with those kids and shooting the documentary. These kids had a story to tell. Every single time I looked at them I saw a Hero in all of them.Most of them had lost one of their parent due to HIV and the other parent were in their last stages of life....A disease that seemed to be as common as cold in the place where these kids lived. Probably the fastest spreading virus in their city.With little less hope for their future and little less of everything in their life they still managed to laugh..Still held their prayers strong.A possibility of a change is what they hoped for.

I was a pleasant surprise to many of them but they welcomed me so well in their home.They opened up to me and listened to my little advice I gave them.The biggest complement I got was from a 7 yr. old girl who said she wanted to grow up to be like me.I realized that my support and my care could possibly give them a sense of hope and an assurance that there is someone who can help, who can set them free from the life they have known.I am not sure How much of my life I could devote from my busy life, but I promised to stay in touch and be a part of their life as much as I could.For they are a strong part of my life. Living with them is definitely a phase in my life that has changed me as a person. Made me a better person,I gained strength from them.So young and yet so strong.

I consider myself lucky to have been a part of the kids life and they being a part of mine...I guess in few days we gained strength from each other.Two people from different part of life.

(Mar 23rd to Mar 28th 2011)Important days of my life :)

Loss is irreplaceable

Recently I heard the loss of my friends husband.I had a sinking feeling within me.I could not imagine someone going thro the loss of your loved one..I had flashes of images in front of me.I imagined what it would be like for my friend..I had images of movie clips from P.S.I love you and thought of my friend going thro a similar phase like the movie.I know it sounds bad to think about a movie while someone is going thro such pain.Then I realized that as humans we connect to things.we connect to our experiences.May be my closest was the movie I had witnessed.But then I thought of my dad and my friend Firaz,I was there too.I had lost someone close to me.I did not think about them cause It would bring back memories and I would relate to my loss of my loved ones...

Then I wondered if they all met in heaven.I prayed to dad to take care of my friend...

I knew, I understood the strength we gather at someone's lose.It's not that day of pain,its the life we carry on holding those memories, so close to let that place ever be healed or replaced...

Time is a healer but sometimes those memories can bring us to life....

The loss is irreplaceable.It made me realize What we leave behind is irreplaceable.

relationships

In a journey called life every single person count.